It's quite difficult to escape one's past. While it's hard to predict who they'll become from it, you still get an insight into what might work...
I wasn't exactly romantic at that point, mind.
I know how that is...but you are a little perverted mouse huh? Just what do you think of 
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My fetishes are mundane, but I'm not proud of some of their implications. My main issues are looking up h-images regularly and frequent sexual jokes/interpretations/imaginations. My eyes aren't exactly civil about wandering on the rare occasions I'm in public, either.
Rou's actions are his own. His fetish is his. If he can enjoy it, more power to him. That's my take. As for the earlier parts...I'm glad you liked them 
No, that didn't really seem like fetish fulfillment, which was... a large part of the problem. But I guess that isn't the issue here.
Let me put it this way. The pain has to be sensual in some way. Yes, I'll break this rule a little in roleplay because it's not actually my body. but honestly, I wouldn't "get off" on, say, a punch to the face. Or the spine. It's all about context. So the ties aren't as strong as I make them out to be.
Heh. That reminds me of Purvis' Unzanshuryouken image. He mentioned checking that with the masochists. I was very amused.
Context... is also a good point, actually. Pain in the bedroom doesn't generalize well to pain from cooking-oil spills in the kitchen, or the like. I'm no real judge of 'sensual' pain, so I can't delve further than that, but yeah. This part isn't really that bad, but I'm easily worried.
As for "emotional abuse", that's also contextual. I like being called dirty names and being devalued. There are, however, hard limits on what you can insult, well known by whoever plays with me. Actual emotional abuse is avoided because I turn what some might consider emotional abuse into a kind of badge of honor. The more depraved things I'm called the more I feel I've done something right, if that makes sense. But some things won't fit the context and would be genuinely hurtful. So again, the tie is weaker than it looks.
This part, on the other hand, I find REALLY unhealthy.
Would you be insulted if others in public called you things that you want/expect from your master or other playmates? I'll admit I may underestimate mental flexibility, but are you sure it's healthy to embrace those insults, even if you don't (think you) take them to heart? For that matter, is it healthy for your master to use such insults and hostility?
.......... thinking about it more... I suppose you COULD try to disconnect terms of insults from their conventional meaning via reinterpretation. "Slut" is an insult for fear of cuckoldry more than anything, which isn't especially valid in this day and age. That one's pretty easy to redefine. And 'put-downs' between master and servant could be retaken as 'pet names.' Possible but confusing bonus; resilience to others using that as an insult due to it losing that meaning to you. Possible problem with that: Misinterpreting their intent, or embracing it leading to them getting angry or seeking to genuinely abuse you.
So... I'm inflexible about doing so myself, and I'm not fond of the idea, but I can see that part working... to an extent. I'm definitely still worried about subtly taking it to heart and being a more passive self-esteem-less slug than I am, but it's... plausible.
Still - there's more than that to emotional abuse... give me some non-verbal examples of what you would and wouldn't tolerate, perhaps?
